When I first became I new mom and started back at university, I was flustered, stressed and suffered major separation anxiety about leaving my baby. I didn’t know how I was going to manage with the baby, the house, my studies and my partner? There just isn’t enough time in the day. I was drowning in all the tasks I had to complete. Fast forward 15 months and we have now found what works for us.
The beginning can be a tough time, who takes on extra chores? who is cooking dinner tonight? Below are 7 tips for achieving a good balance.
- Planning in advance can be a lifesaver. On the days I am at university I like to have a home cooked meal in the fridge, so all that has to be done is re-heated This allows more free time to spend playing and talking about our day.
- Relax. Being stressed about getting tasks done never works. When I feel under pressure I take 10 minutes out of my day to have a cup of coffee, and reassure myself that I can do this. After doing this I can approach the situation better and preform better.
- Get enough sleep. When I am tired I can’t concentrate or focus on my studying. Getting 8 hours sleep a night improves my concentration and also my mood. (nobody wants a grumpy mom)
- Don’t forget to take time off . Everyone deserves an evening off to chill out and have some “me” time.
- Organisation is key. Packing the bags the night before allows the morning to run as smoothly as possible (life with kids is never smooth). I also like to lay out what we’re wearing that day.
- Get up early. I always find setting my alarm 20 minutes before my toddler wakes up, gives me the chance to get ready and enjoy my first cup of coffee of the day. Doing this improves my mood as I don’t have to rush or stress.
- Don’t be afraid to invest in childcare. I struggled with putting Darragh in nursery for a long time. I managed to avoid doing so for the first year. But I wasn’t able to keep up with university work. Doing this has gave me more free time during the day for completing assignments meaning when we are at home I can be completely ‘mom’. I send Darragh to nursery two days per week. I still feel mom guilt but it will be worth it in the end,
Be positive. This chapter wont last forever, we have to enjoy every moment as it is just a stepping stone to where we want to be.